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How It All Starts
Why do we learn to dance?
We all learn to dance for different reasons. Many grew up with it, took classes, and found that social dancing is an extended practice of their studies. Ninety percent of the time, men will learn to dance to meet women. Ninety percent of time, women will learn to dance simply for the attention they get from men, the activity, and fun of it. If you don’t agree with me, remember, I’m talking “percents”. You may be in that ten percent that learn to dance for different reasons other than what I stated, but deep down, you may be fooling yourself as well.
The Woman, the Victim
How it Starts
When men start to learn how to dance, they feel intimidated. They’ll sit and watch, usually with a drink in their hands, to fight off the nervousness. They’ve got to hold on to something to keep them secure (remember this). Then they may take a class, or buy a video. Eye-balling the best dancers on the dance floor, they notice that the great dancers have many women standing in line to dance with them.
They notice that these incredible dancers are not necessarily good looking, and are far from perfect specimens of the GQ male. In fact, if they saw one of these guys in a dark alley downtown someplace, they would probably run for their lives. But on the dance floor, these dancers are dreamy, chivalrous examples of Male Testosterone with women practically tripping over themselves and everyone else for a chance at the next dance with one of them.
Usually, these advanced dancers will dance with the most beautiful or skilled women, to show off. Beginners notice everything. “I want to be like that some day...” they think to themselves. Who wouldn’t? What “normal” male on earth with a little bit of rhythm, wouldn’t want to be the best dancer in the nightclub?
The Challenge Begins
The progression from beginner to intermediate is full of innocence and fun. Women will help him along the way; students in class will smile at their mistakes and share in the joy of completing a complex turn pattern. The innocence of learning is just that. Innocent.
They’ve finally reached the point of actually going to a nightclub and asking their first woman to dance. Usually, it will be a student or friend they know, or another beginner at their same level. “Whew! Got through that one!”. I love to see the looks in their eyes when they’ve completed an entire song, and feel relieved they didn’t make any mistakes. The joy on their faces is priceless.
A Player is Born
Later, when the moves become more and more complex....
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