A Survival Guide to Relationships in the Dance Scene
By Edie, The Salsa FREAK of Salsaweb.com, Inc.

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....I’ve often wanted to write a letter to Edie, The Salsa FREAK about the dramas of relationships in the dance world, to see how she would respond.  So that’s exactly what I did.  I wrote to the famous, “Edie, The Salsa FREAK”, and frankly got a little nervous right before I hit the “Send” button. 

What is the problem with dating and dancing?  Where can you find a mate if you spend all your time at dance clubs?  When should you settle down?  Why are relationships so difficult in the dance scene?  What makes them so inordinately passionate?  How do you recognize a Player? Why is there so much ridiculous drama?  Who's to blame?  What makes a solid dance/life/partner relationship?  What's the secret of survival? 

Trying to find the perfect mate in the dance scene is like trying to find a perfect grape that skipped the crushing process in a bottle of fine wine. It's not impossible, just extremely rare.  The scene can be very hot, very sensual, and very dangerous if you innocently fall prey to it.  Like a viper, it can pierce your soul and spirit.  The musical rhythms penetrate your veins, and its hypnotic affect could make you fall inexplicably "in love" with virtually any confident and powerful dancer you come across - if you let it. 

Even after a complete commitment, or marriage, the problems deepen.  The smallest of issues are magnified one-hundred fold.  I've seen countless more divorces than marriages in the dance scene - from a 99 to 1 standpoint.  The temptations in the dance world are simply too much to bear.   Many dancers remain single the rest of their lives, or at least until they've quit dancing, have aged, and learned it all the hard way.  Understand that it's not just the dance scene that has these issues, but other social and professional areas in general.

This holds true as well for any area of life, in the workplace, at the office, in social gatherings.... but the dance scene is much more prey to promiscuous behavior simply because of the social "touching" that comes with the territory. People automatically get close to others, and feel a deeper sense of connection than they normally would "at the office" for example.

I've experienced and have seen the best and the worst of relationships.  I've seen how a man could destroy a woman's self-esteem, and how a woman could destroy a man's ego and self worth.  Without mutual respect and honesty, the dance scene is very treacherous ground if you're looking for a life long mate. 99% of the time, it won't happen.  Oh, you think it will.  You'll be absolutely convinced in your mind that I'm wrong, and decide to completely discard this article.  My advice to you is to keep it around for a few months or years.  Wait and see.  Hope I'm wrong.   

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